Infidelity - a violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship, which constitutes a significant breach of faith or a betrayal of core shared values with which the integrity of the relationship is defined. In common use, it describes an act of unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover, whether sexual or non-sexual in nature.
Regarding infidelity, my personal opinion is this - there really is no justification of it. If a person does not want a to commit to a relationship with 'mutually agreed-upon rules' then make it clear! if you do commit, but later change your mind or meet someone new, then finish your relationship. Simples really, but in reality people tend to want their cake and eat it so to speak, and want the best of both worlds, knowing full well that those involved are not as willing and wouldn't be so compliant.
However, I also think that some people do not set out to cheat - as the cliche 'it just happened' is so often used. I expect it must be difficult for those faced with a decision to choose between someone they have been with for a long time, lifestyle, routine and maybe even family, and the new person they may have very well fallen in love with. However, people need to consider what they are risking before things get too far, and before the decisions become difficult.
Infidelity just doesn't affect those directly involved, it also has a large impact on those around - friends of the couple, family, and of course, the children - both those in the relationship, but also those conceived during the affair. I think it is highly irresponsible and selfish to commit infidelity when there are children involved. Thats not to say I believe you should stay in an unwanted relationship, I just think it is more considerate and responsible to end a relationship, and then start the other one at a later date to minimise the impact on all those involved.
Here's a general overview of infidelity ,it offers some reasoning and explanations for infidelity, an also some common signs that an adulterous person may display!
I agree that there isn't a justification for cheating on someone who you have committed to a relationship with. It is simple matter of choice; either stay faithful or get out. However, I also think that life isn't as black and white as we like to think. Although there are some people who are just selfish and greedy and want to have the cake and eat it. There are also some people who find themselves in a situation which ends up spiraling out of control for many reasons. It's not always planned, however, when the time comes people have to make a choice even it will hurt the people closiest to them.
ReplyDeleteI love what you have said here . Ive got a few tats and they have great sentimental meaning to myself . Hopefully I won't regreat them as I started quite late in getting them (29) . I wonder though what I will be saying in 15 yrs if my little girl decides to get one ( I won't have a leg to stand on ) . loved your blog all the way through. Jodie
ReplyDeleteWow, what an amazing information!! Thanks so much.
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